A Goth Hipster

Anonymous asked: have you ever been heart broken? and how.

Of course; anyone who is willing to get completely emotionally attached with someone else runs the risk of getting hurt, and I have been in that situation a few times. This being the anonymous public forum that it is, I’ll keep the specifics to myself, but yes I have had my heart broken as it were.

Sometimes when you’re in a serious relationship with someone, and you think everything is going perfectly fine, they may be harbouring doubts. Since we didn’t talk about it, I was oblivious and thrown completely off guard when she ended it. 

I took it badly, and allowed myself all the self-inflicted anguish and despair that I thought poetically appropriate. But eventually I saw reason and the dark clouds over my head lifted. Much later, she had the chance to really explain herself, and honestly I think the decision that she made was completely appropriate; we’ve managed to become fairly good friends after all of that, maybe even better because of the experience. 

Anonymous asked: so I'd ask this off anon but i'm a shy person. i see you quite often around town but I never am able to walk up and say hello because well I'm incredibly shy, like little geeky girl run behind a wall type shy. so in an honest opinion if someone approached you about your tumblr and asked to lets say grab tea or something and converse how would you react?

Firstly, let me preface with a disclaimer: I’m not actually as intimidating as I may look out on the street, haha. Secondly, I am also rather socially awkward, but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy meeting new people. Interestingly enough, not many people in real life know about my Tumblr; not for any secretive means, it’s just that I talk with them about a lot of the things I find online anyways.  It’s a little strange to think that someone knows me only as this online personality through the things that I reblog. 

But if you were to introduce yourself as being from ‘the Internet’ and wanted to talk, I would be fine with that; it would most likely be hilariously awkward though. And I’m partial to Chai myself. 

Anonymous asked: Since the last question you answered was about tattoos I thought I'd ask one as well! Approximately how much did your complete tattoo cost?

This is sort of a difficult question to answer, because it involves maths. The entire tattoo that makes up my chestpiece is actually three different tattoos, done at different times: 1)the stars, 2)the skull and lettering, and finally 3)the banner, land and sea. It spans about 5 years, but I think if I add them all together, it would roughly be about 800-850 Canadian dollars. Sounds like a lot, but again, three different artists over several years. 

Anonymous asked: If you were to get more tattoos what would they be? and I really like your chest piece.

Thank you, I’m rather pleased with it too. It started out as just the stars in a silly “I’m 18 I can do what I want” spur of the moment thing. And then I started to build on it, and I finally saw my idea come to completion this year, thanks to a wonderful artist.

As for more, absolutely. I have several in the planning stages, including something on my ribs devoted to a band that got me through some very long years in my adolescence, HIM. But I think the next one I would like to see happen is a legpiece filled with mythological content, apropos for me as I’m doing my degree in Classical History, and the mythos of the times is really what gets to me. 

Thanks for asking! I do love talking about tattoos, even though it fills me with an unsatisfied lust for more that I can’t do anything about for a while. 

Anonymous asked: would you ever date a non goth.

Short answer: Of course. Longer, convoluted answer: I don’t think whatever subculture you subscribe to makes you more or less appealing. I’ve dated goths sure, but also punks, metalheads, indie hipsters, and even that popular kind of girl that for lack of a better phrase I’ll call ‘normal’. 

It doesn’t really matter what style a girl likes to dress in, or what their favourite music is (although having things in common is a good thing). It’s more important what’s going on in their head; if i can relate to them and have intelligent conversations with them, I don’t care if they don’t want to come out dancing to my gothy music, just like I would expect them to be okay with me not going out to whatever popular dance club they like. It may be a little harder to get along with their friends if they’re close minded against other genres of people, but you take the good with the bad. 

So, to sum up: I’m attracted to all types of girls, and I’ve dated all types of girls; it really truly is what’s on the inside that matters. And patience, intelligence and empathy will always be attractive. 

Anonymous asked: if you were to live anywhere else where would it be?

I have a sort of idyllic fantasy about moving to Britain, settling into a little apartment or remodeled farmhouse just outside London and changing my name to Reginald Foxworth. I would take up pipe tobacco, get a big Irish hound and a Range Rover, and wear plenty of tweed, while running a small shop of morbid curiosities and peculiarities.  I would grow a thin handlebar mustache and twirl it maniacally at youths, while jauntily swinging my cane. And on the weekends I would run an industrial/heavy synth dance bar out of a retrofitted church from the 1600s, and distill my own gin in the basement.   

Anonymous asked: Do you have any pictures of goth women with short hair, or suggestions on how to style short hair for goths?

I guess it depends on what you mean by ‘short’. Because there’s a lot of variation there. But here’s some girls with hair shorter than their shoulders, maybe that will help?

jedetesteelizaethsaige asked: what's your favorite horror film ?

Easy answer is probably Evil Dead, because it’s the first one I legitimately watched and I’ve loved it ever since. 

But if I had to choose a second favourite, probably House of 1000 Corpses, because it actually managed to frighten me, which isn’t common.

Thanks so much for asking me, I like that you’re curious :)

Exams are done for the year, and I’m going to Toronto for the day with my gothy friends to go shopping for Torture Garden. AND, we’re seeing the Devil’s Carnival tonight!

Everything’s coming up Milhouse!

Anonymous asked: words could not explain how much i wish guys where i live had your taste and style. and you seem like a sweet guy too :)

That’s very sweet of you, thanks. I’m sure there are guys in your area that are trying to find an honest style that works for them, but the fun thing about people is that everyone is different. 

Anonymous asked: would you ever sell your bracelets?

You mean the black beaded ones with skulls? Haha, I guess, if someone ever really wanted one. But honestly it would be cheaper to buy a couple bags of beads and some elastic cord and do it yourself, it’s tremendously easy.